Family Grieving Seperatly

It's hard to help someone else heal when you are trying to heal yourself. Your not being selfish by asking for time alone. When you loose a child, it effects both parents differently. There are separate memories making it individual between a Father and a Son/Daughter and a Mother and a Son/Daughter. Parents sometimes find their self holding up a sign saying my Son/Daughter meant more to me than he/she did to you. It's only a way of trying to get as close as we can with the relationship that is no longer with us. There will come a time when you have to crawl out of your little private world and rejoin your family. When you see them as you once did, your instincts will tell you they are in need of you. It's OK to heal separately, but also try and remember you have family that is still here and need you and want you. It's a long road to find your way back, but if you realize you are not alone, you will find the strength you need to heal and also help your loved ones.